The season of giving and receiving is upon us and somewhere along the line we’ve been taught that it’s good manners to turn down gracious offers.
Don’t think so? How many times have you fought for a check?
Next time when a friend offers to pay for your lunch, say yes. When someone offers to take something off your plate, say yes. Accept compliments graciously.
Saying “yes” is the same thing as saying “I value you and your giving nature.” Someone wanting to pay for your lunch is his or her way of saying, “I’m so glad you’re in my life.”
Receiving graciously is one of the largest gifts you can give another human being – not to mention one of the easiest ways to validate them.
Now, its one thing to let someone help you complete a project at work or pay for lunch, it seems to be a whole different thing to graciously accept a compliment.
Before we go any further, I need to come clean, this is one of those “do as I say, not as I do” things. I am working on this, but I still pretty much suck at it.
Someone says, “I love that shirt!” and I say, “Oh, this old thing? I’m only wearing it because nothing else fits.” Or someone says, “Your hair is so pretty!” and I say, “Ack! The humidity is totally messing with it.” Or, “You’re really good at this!” and I answer, “Boy do I have you fooled!”
And I know I am not alone. Why, when it is so much easier to merely say “thank you” do we deflect compliments?
Think people aren’t crumpling under work that someone else could help with or fighting for checks or deflecting compliments, watch and listen what’s happening around you for 15 minutes, you’ll see it. More importantly start recognizing it in your own life.
During this holiday season, ask for help if you need it and receive as graciously as you possibly can.